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Sunday, 6 January 2019

First Dance

If you're getting married then you may be wondering what song to choose for your first dance as husband and wife, and how this will all come together on your big day.

Not everyone feels comfortable with doing this in front of all their family and friends, and lots of newlweds choose to break this tradition by not having one, and that's absoutely fine. However, David and I felt that this was something we wanted to do, although neither of us are particularly good dancers, so this was a bit daunting to say the least!

If this is something that you'd like to do on your wedding day then here are some tips:

Choose a song you both love
I trawled through numerous "first dance" playlists on Spotify and came up with a shortlist of songs for our first dance. It was quite difficult choosing the song! Try to avoid choosing a really long song; a three minute song feels much longer when you're up there in front of everyone. We love the Matt Johnson cover version of Ben E King's Stand By Me, and it gave me goosebumps when the gospel choir sang this at Harry and Meghan's wedding (check it out on YouTube!) which took place the weekend before our wedding.

Go for dance lessons
David and I had three dance lessons before the wedding day. We weren't planning on learning a routine, but Sara Sirati at Ardour Academy in Cardiff made us feel at ease and helped us work out a sequence together. Three lessons are probably enough, but everyone is different so make sure you give yourselves plenty of time before the wedding day to have lessons. Some couples may choose to learn some moves from YouTube or a DVD, but we preferred going for actual lessons.

Keep it a surprise
We only told my parents that we were going for dance lessons. We didn't want people to know because it ramps up expectations, plus we wanted it to be a surprise.

Keep it simple
We kept our routine as simple as possible. You see some videos of couples doing their first dance and you can't help but cringe because the routine is too ambitious and complicated and they mess it up. I guess this makes the wedding day all the more memorable, but maybe for the wrong reasons!

Practice as much as you can. We found it helpful to write down the sequence of moves and talked to each other throughout the dance so we knew which move was coming next. As I said, neither of us are brilliant dancers but this was what worked for us.

Live music or a recording?
We had an acoustic singer and guitarist who played our first dance, which was really special. Louise Victoria is highly recommended for her beautiful vocals and song selection.

Enjoy it! It definitely brought us closer together and we were very happy with the routine because it wasn't too complicated but was less boring than just stepping from side to side. Our guests enjoyed it too, and we had cheers throughout! Preparing for our first dance was a journey in ways we didn't expect.

So there you are; everything you need to know about our first dance as husband and wife. I hope this helps you if you're planning your wedding...of course, you could just wing it on the day, bust out some amazing moves and do your own thing; it's your special day!

Dance lesssons: Sara Sirati at Ardour Academy

Thank you for reading! Angharad x


  1. These all sound like super important questions to think about while planning a first dance, speaking of which... what a beautiful image, wow!!

    aglassofice.com x


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